Just as I said earlier that Dhumavati is an unlikely matchmaker but actually is THE deity of Twin Flame ascension, there is another unlikely champion of Twin Flame Union.
It's Hekate.
Yes, Hekate whose ancient eyes gaze out from Her three/four beautiful Maiden faces (I've seen Her with four faces). Twin Flames burn in Her hands like Her twin torches.
What is Her role? I can't put it into words, because these are Mysteries that you will learn on your own. But this is why the Twin Flame relationship is NOT an ordinary, cheap karmic romance. It is not codependent "dating", it's not limerence, it's not the sickness of ordinary romantic relationships.
It's also not the polyamorous energy leak of many lineages of Sri Vidya and other imbalanced relationships in both classical Tantra and neo-Tantra.
Twin Flame Union is the ascension of human marriage and the brutal death of codependency. It is a branch on the tree of sacred sexuality, but it's completely different from the other branches.
The role that Hekate plays in bringing Twin Flames together is, likewise, different from all of Her other roles. It's recognizable, but different. And it is a Mystery that has to be directly experienced, because I have sat here and tried and tried and tried to type out an explanation, but it's impossible.
Does it have to do with the Underworld and its terrible trials? Yes.
Does it have to do with the liminal spaces of death, rebirth and timeline shifting? Yes.
Does it have to do with the story of Persephone and Hades? Yes.
Does it have to do with the evolution of the Divine Feminine? Yes.
Does it have to do with Womb magic? Yes.
Does it have to do with give-no-fucks spiritual sovereignty? Yes.
Does it have to do with abundance, Heaven on Earth, and soul ascension into the 5D? Yes.
Hekate in all Her roles - sky, earth, and sea - is deeply present on the Twin Flame journey. Her crossroads is where it ALL happens.
But all of these themes have the potential to be watered down into pop psychology and shallow witchcraft. And I have seen all of these themes distorted according to whatever paradigm the teacher or practitioner believed in.
One of the most important keys to progressing on the spiritual path is to apply the techniques to your life. How does the teaching, the practice, and the narrative affect your journey? What is the Goddess saying to you?
Hekate, like all primordial female powers, is not trapped in antiquity. She is living, breathing, blazing Feminine Power. She is here. She is present now, in human consciousness and on this planet as it evolves today.
In all paths people walk to the Dark Maiden, She is an initiatrix. Her role on the Twin Flame path is just as transformative and empowering. And since my Twin Flame journey is a Left Hand Path, very different from the false light candy-cane bubble of the "Twin Flame" collective, Hekate's chthonic power has been the love and medicine I have needed. I love Her. My Twin Flame loves Her through me.
Twin Flames are not native to Hekatean spirituality, although they are briefly mentioned in connection to Zeus. The myth of Zeus splitting apart Twin Flames has never been relevant to my Twin Flame path with Hekate, which is mostly oriented towards chthonic deities, the Underworld and Divine Feminine empowerment.
Even Hekate's heavenly forms, such as Soteira or Ourania, do not lead me to an upper world flavored by Zeus/patriarchal spirituality.
At this point I'd say that Hekate and Twin Flames is just a different perspective and approach than Zeus and Twin Flames. Maybe there is some connection, but it has not (yet) become relevant to my journey.
The bottom line is, while there is no historical support that Twin Flames have anything to do with Hekate (just as there is no historical support for Her role in Wicca), it is my personal revelation that She initiates you onto the path of Twin Flame Union. That is one of Her roles today.
I also see Hekate as equivalent to the Ten Mahavidyas of the Shakta pantheon. She is fully equal in power, enlightenment and magic to any of the Mahavidyas. I have seen Her become, variously, Bala Tripura Sundari, Dhumavati, Bagalamukhi and Kali in my years of working with Her.
Again, just because it's not accurate to Her role in antiquity, that doesn't mean it's not real.
You can know all the ancient texts by heart, live faithfully according to the dysfunctions of ancient Greek society, and build a new Strophalos every week...and still not get anywhere at all with Hekate.
You can be ignorant of most traditional magic and Hellenic spirituality, dedicate yourself fiercely with your whole heart to your sovereign body and the divinity expressed through your physiology, refusing to spiritually bypass, refusing to give your power away to anyone...and Hekate will COME GET YOU.
She is here for the warriors of the heart who need torchlight in the darkness, and She is here for Love. She has no patience at all for karmic relationships and codependency, but the Twin Flame path is quite literally Her path.
There are no matchmaker deities on the path of Twin Flame ascension. It doesn't work that way. While Hekate does sometimes behave like a "matchmaker", Her primary role - that I'm able to talk about publicly - is unfucking my mind and unfucking my Twin's mind.
There is so much deception and distortion out there about the path of Twin Flame ascension. This sacred work has been overrun by narcissists, cult leaders, tourists, and dabblers. Some, in a well-intentioned effort to reduce harm to the community and themselves, have ended up watering down the real path into something entirely different.
None of these roads lead to the real thing.
Much of our work on the Twin Flame path is really about unfucking our minds from toxic Twin Flame information and toxic spirituality in general. We don't know who we really are or how much our minds have been conditioned by societal, ancestral and multi-dimensional influences that are hostile to Love. Even worse, much of this egoic conditioning masquerades as liberal virtue, accepted social dynamics, and "conscious relating".
Similar to how the original Woke movement was appropriated by a well-heeled liberal elite and insincere influencers, and turned into the Woke Grift.
Ego dresses up in the language of psychology, logic and healing to lead you back into loops and traps that maintain the toxic status quo, and strangle Love before it can be born.
They don't want you to create your own reality. Literally, being on this spiritual detox journey has shown me with frightening depth how much I was living in their reality. A reality of lies, distortions and evil that I was repeatedly hypnotized into believing was "reality". It was not. At all. It was bullshit.
Don't give your power away to anyone. Learn to recognize the emotional signature of Love and follow it, no matter what pretty words are being used on the surface. That felt resonance of Love shows you where the Truth is and where an illusion is being dressed up in all the right words to lead you to ruin.
There is a reason why the widow goddess Dhumavati, not the love goddess Tripura Sundari, guides the path of Twin Flame ascension. And although Hekate and Aphrodite shared a temple complex on the island of Samothrace, both venerated as embodiments of Nature and the Divine Mother, it is Hekate who brings Twin Flames together. Not Aphrodite.
Why?
It's for you to find out.