I have to say something about this, since I use these terms ("Divine Masculine" and "Divine Feminine") in my personal spiritual life, but I really don't like how they are used in the wider community.
First of all, you don't have to use these gendered terms to express the spiritual polarity with your Twin Flame. I use them because I'm in a heterosexual relationship. If that's not you, then you can describe this spiritual polarity in many other ways: Light and Dark, Space and Matter, Order and Chaos, Life and Death, Night and Day, whatever works.
It's not about gender. Gender is purely made up stuff and in my opinion, an illusion based on deeply held conditioning in the body.
My Twin is a heterosexual man and I'm a heterosexual woman. We defy gender stereotypes in specific ways that trigger the crap out of the collective unconscious. And that is a big lesson we're here to teach by example: what heterosexual pairings can look like when you throw gender garbage out like the trash it is.
We are not some Daddy Divine Masculine and his Child Divine Feminine. Which is the exact horseshit that the spiritual community seems to think the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine are. And that offends me because they're taking spiritual terms meant to elevate the human experience, and twisting them in service of the old paradigm of patriarchy.
Again, I can't emphasize this enough: the Divine Feminine is NOTHING like the "traditional woman" or dolled up atrocity that femininity coaches tell you to be. She is also nothing like the alpha-male-worshipping false priestess who claims to channel Mary Magdalene. These people don't recognize the Divine Feminine vibration at all, only the sugar baby vibration.
She is the OPPOSITE of all that "traditional woman" nonsense. She is not bound by social conventions at all. She is not a 1950s housewife fetish, and she is also not a damn child.
I tend to experience Her as the ferrywoman Morgan le Fay, not the flower bride Guinevere.
As Dhumavati the Smoky Widow, not Tripura Sundari the Beauty.
As Ereshkigal the Death Queen, not Inanna the Seductress.
These archetypes are especially terrifying to some people, so they twist their minds in all sorts of ways to redefine femininity and masculinity. Hilariously, many attributes of powerful dark goddesses end up getting re-assigned to the "divine masculine".
When I was deep in Kali sadhana, there was fire and ferocity coursing through me, awakening body parts that had been frozen by trauma. When I described Kali's loving, healing rage to a friend, she interpreted that as "Your inner masculine rising to protect you."
No the fuck it was not. It was Her in all of Her glory. What the fuck?
This is why I'm talking about my perspective on the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine, despite my reluctance. Because the collective thinking around these divine states of consciousness has become insane, in my opinion.
I use terms like the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine but I could just as easily call it the Wild Feminine and the Wild Masculine. Because Divinity is found in releasing all social, cultural and moral brainwashing masquerading as truths. When I apply the Divine Feminine to my path specifically, and I define it as, "the highest expression of my experience of my biological sex." In other words, becoming more of who I already am.
- My natural preferences purified beyond attachment or aversion
- My natural body, purified of conditioning it has held for years
- My authentic expression as a woman (which can defy gender norms)
It doesn't have to mean that for you. Again, you do not have to use terms like the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine at all in your life.
I actually hold the Divine Feminine to be a very high state of consciousness. It is something I am evolving towards, not something I embody all the time right now. In some traditions, this is referred to as "personality display". The idea is that Consciousness/Source/God is not just transcendent or ascetic, but ecstatic and embodied in physical life. When you become a purified vessel, Consciousness can display through your natural, God-given personality. This is why it is said that enlightenment is as unique as the individual experiencing it.
And that is how I think of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine. It's who you are when you've released everything that you're not.
It's not some spiritual version of the frat bro and sorority girl. I almost puked writing that. And this is why I don't buy into gender ideology at all. I think it's inherently heteronormative, patriarchal, dissociated and backwards.
Use whatever term for this polarity authentically describes your experience. There is NO Twin Flame dogma regarding how this polarity should be described or experienced.